Trigram application Marriage(2)
In the Chinese society like to have a boy. The marriage with male children will feel good. Then I did a lot of research. In the Republic of China in the 63rd year, I was working with the Women and Children Center at the Affiliated Hospital of the Taipei College of Nursing in Kangding Road. I worked with the Ministry of Nursing and the Ministry of Health. It didn’t have ultrasound before. Would not know if it’s a male or female. Although we didn’t have one child policy, we said that two children should be just right, and after two should not give birth too much. In the 60 years of the Republic of China, some of the higher civil servants’ wives went to have children, civil servants was in a very high official rank, the greater the fame, the official mother would more snobbish, the first baby of a woman, the mother-in-law will bring something, cooked the kidney soup is to make the uterus shrink well, the second if the baby still a girl she will not cook it. When The birth finished she must go home stay home for the month recovery. If kill the chicken,it will not be any black-bone chicken to make soup.Nothing more. I did explain that the government is implementing two precisely. Both are girls, and the incense does not know who to pass to in the future. That means if you do not not work hard with the next child, she may ask his son to go out and have a baby with another women to come back. The pressure is so great. The second year the woman return to the women’s and children’s center, and she still had a daughter, she cried for a week, she thinks it is over, and the last director of the nursing department, surnamed Lin, said that Teacher Chen, you have studied with so many boys and girls, can you see this person, she said that the husband of that person is a very important person in a certain public institution, but his mother thinks that she has a good position at home. What are you going to do? I asked if the man love the wife? Then I can handle it, the husband must come together, I talk to her husband, I said that I specialize in this thing at the Taipei Medical College, all the civil servants when you talk to them, have to look at their career first, he asked how to solve it? I said it is very simple. You two have to move out. He said that this can be done. Why can it be done? He told his mother that the place where he went to work was too far away. At that time, the traffic in the Republic of China was very chaotic. The economy of Taiwan has not yet taken off. The civil servants are riding bicycles. Some people do not even have motorcycles, or they do buses. Although there are departments send cars, there are many people crowded around the road. His mother agrees, I will tell him to live in what door direction, eat more meat, how the wife should do, after a year and three months have a baby boy. His mother was very happy. The third child boy, the mother immediately cooked the kidney, and the chickens from the countryside were well cooked and given to the wife.
There is no marriage class in the history of China, so the relationship of marriage, including marriage, is the weakest point in our Chinese society. It is probably a woman who suffers a lot, and does not talk sense. This is a model of Chinese social male chauvinism. This is also why I have to do research. I think that in a society, if the feelings of every couple, or boyfriend and girlfriend do not dealing well, it is not a good things, and the society will not be stable. Why is the old society so stable? It’s probably a sacrifice to the woman. It’s okay to have a woman outside for the husband. The mother-in-law said that a powerful man to have three wives and four squats is okay. The mother-in-law uses this to suppress the daughter-in-law, so that they can’t be noisy or arrogant! Just stay home do work and works.
The big family system, there may be a few girls under the father and mother, the female married out, the male married in to have a first family, second family.. just like this, there is still a special trip from Taoyuan, she wants to build one house, I asked her build how many floors? Said to build to the sixth floor with the elevator, she said the first floor of the public hall, the second floor, the third floor ..., the first child, the second child, the third child all the way lined up, I asked if the entire family to live in it? Yes, they are big families. They have to cover two hundred pings on one floor. I didn’t deal with them at the end. I said that I have difficulties. My research is mainly one-on-one, with male and doors oriented. They have four brothers and four brothers have different Gua. They are arranged in a row. When arrange it for everyone is good, then I don’t know how to change the stairs of the building. I said that I have no way to do it, she should go ask others to see it.
When in a big family, when a man got married, the daughter-in-law who married in was destined for her entire destiny. In the big family, this house you live in. If it is bad for the husband, when the woman marries this husband, no matter how capable you are, you are the bad part, so the previous marriage pays more attention to the Yang house.
